Jul
22
2009
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Be a HELPER, Not an Enabler

FACT: In the Kingdom of God… we have far too many people who are “too nice”

That was pretty shocking to read from a preacher, wasn’t it?

But it is true… there are far too many people out there… who out of the love that is in their heart for their families, friends, and others… will bail them out of trouble time after time… after time again.

…and instead of helping that family member or friend, that person is inadvertantly destroying them with their love.

A person like this is called an enabler. An enabler is simply defined as, “One who does for someone else… things that the OTHER person should be doing and can do, for themselves.”

As Kingdom people… we are called to help each other out. But in helping, we must never “enable” someone to continue to act and move in a path of self-destruction.

A helper is defined as, “One who does something for someone that they are NOT capable of doing themselves.”

King Solomon, the wisest man of all times declared, “A hot-tempered man must pay the penalty; if you rescue him, you will have to do it AGAIN.”  (Proverbs 19:19)

Sometimes… the best love we can show to our hurting friends & family members is to allow them to receive the penalty that is due for their actions.

Many times, this is tough for us to endure through… watching someone get locked up in jail, or getting evicted out of their house, or suffering through a bad relationship… but at times, this is what is needed to knock sense into a person’s head.

Sometimes the best solution after repeatedly dealing with loved ones is for us to close up our wallets, close up our mouths, and close up our homes, until that person gets it.

Because if you keep on bailing people out of trouble repeatedly… you will have to do it for the rest of your life… which is NO fair to you, and does not help that person in the long-term.

Until next time, be blessed… and walk in God’s abundance for your life today.



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Written by Daniel Wiafe in: Attitude,Relationship | Tags: , ,

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