How to NEVER Succeed in ANYTHING in Life! (Read on…)

Ouch, that must be the most NEGATIVE title I’ve ever given any of my weekly TodayAbundance messages… but it’ll make sense in the end, *TRUST ME!*

Okay let’s face it… if you’ve ever read more than one book or article on motivation or inspiration, you’ve surely come across some titles that make it seem like being a success in life is a simple ONE step process… and that if you JUST find the right “magical” formula for success, all your problems and issues will fade away… world peace will envelope the whole entire earth and bring a standstill to all these world wars… and all of our unfortunate brothers and sisters starving to death in 3rd world countries will be fed.

Well the news is this: There is NOT a magical formula for success… and there never will be, because success for everyone is different.

Webster’s Dictionary defines success as “attaining wealth, fame, fortune, status”… but the great motivator Earl Nightengale once said on his recording, “The Strangest Secret”, that the definition of success is summed up by this definition: “To progressively move forward towards a worthy goal that you set for yourself”

Think about that. Being a success in this guy’s point-of-view is “Progressively moving towards a worthy goal, that I set for myself”.

Which definition do you like better? Basically in a nutshell, Webster’s tells you that you are NOT a success unless you are either rich, famous, or popular. Webster’s “success” tells you that you are only at the top of your game if you are focused on attaining worldly items… and the love of people (who probably don’t care anything about you in the first place).

Let’s be real… money, fame, and fortune is good… and for me to tell anyone to NOT have money would be totally foolish, but we have to get ourselves to the point where money (or our drive to acquire money, if we’re broke) is NOT our first priority… or our measurement of success. If money, fame, and fortune was all that people needed to be a total success… then why do we hear about rich & famous people committing suicide, jumping from relationship to relationship, abusing drugs?

Yeah, I know… it’s a good question, isn’t it?

Is that the type of success we truely want? Even if you had a hundred million dollars in the bank account now… how long would you be happy? How long would all the big, fancy stuff you bought with your money keep you happy? Our wants are always a lust that can NEVER be satisfied, because we will always want more!

Our desire to attain more money should just be a MEANS TO AN END, and not the end itself… meaning that I desire to get more money, so that I can satisfy my goals that I set for myself… and past that if I get more or less money, who cares.

The Bible says in 1 Timothy 6:10 that, “The LOVE of money, is the root of all evil”. Notice it DID NOT say “Money is the root of all evil”… but it said “The LOVE of money is the root of all evil”.

Where our heart is… that is where our treasure is at… and where our treasure is at, that is where we’ll find out how we can be a success in life… and truely enjoy it!

Nightengale’s definition pretty much says that as long as you (1) Have a goal or goals set for yourself…. and (2) You are actively moving towards accomplishing your goal… you are a success.

So a woman whose goal is to be the perfect mother to her 3 children, and loves her kids unconditionally… is a SUCCESS.

The student who aims to the best in his class, and studies like crazy to achieve this goal… is a SUCCESS.

The woman who desires to be an entrepreneur, and studies everything she can about management, marketing, and accounting… is a SUCCESS.

The pastor who aims to be the best pastor he can be, and actively seeks to see the people healed both spiritually and naturally in his church… is a SUCCESS.

Our success is NEVER measured by anybody else… it is NEVER measured by anyone else’s standards… the only person who even has the right ruler or yardstick to measure how far you will succeed… is you and only you. Not your parents, not your friends, not co-workers, but you and ONLY you.

You are a master of your own destiny… and you will NEVER have true success if you are trying to chase someone else’s success. You’ll end up being just like a dog who always chases his tail… and NEVER catches it.

Make goals for yourself to attain today… and then ACTIVELY work at achieving them, and then when you have achieved them, set more goals for yourself!

I typically tell people to set at least ONE goal in the 4 primary areas of life:

(1) Spiritual Goal (ex. Pray for at least 15 minutes every morning, Read the entire Bible in a year)
(2) Relationship Goal (ex. Give my wife flowers everyday, Have dinner with my parents every Sunday)
(3) Financial Goal (ex. start a Internet business by May, make $75,000 a year by 2010)
(4) Physical Fitness Goal (ex. lose 15 lbs. by May, bench press 200 lbs. by December 31st)

You will ALWAYS be a success when you set goals for yourself that you are passionate about and you actively seek to accomplish them. It will give you a NEW sense of vigor… and excitement as you accomplish each one of your goals.

You will ALWAYS be a success, when you focus on attaining enough money to provide a very comfortable life for yourself, family, and loved ones… get yourself out of debt… and provide long-term financial security for yourself. Past that, use your excess money & time for a higher calling — such as helping people who are less fortunate and less blessed than you are, and you will be a SUCCESS in God’s eyes!

Until next time, be blessed, be good to yourself and others, and walk in God’s rich abundance for your life… today!

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Goal Setting – The SEXY Way – Part #2

This is the second post, in a 2-part series discussing how powerful the effects of goals can be in your life… if you implement them correctly and with enthusiasm. To read the first post, please [CLICK HERE]

Alright my people… so yesterday, I identified why Goals are sexy! No, goals don’t have curvy hips and long legs… and no, goals don’t have bulging biceps or plump pectorals, but they are definitely the SEXY thing for you to have in your life.

Goals influence you, goals motivate you, goals pull you higher than you could ever hope to reach, and goals help to define you.

So, let’s go into more specifics on goals… if you read the previous blog post yesterdat, you will definitely understand why it is important and VITAL that you have goals.


Goals MUST be written down somewhere (on a notebook, on a sheet of paper, etc.). If you just keep your goals in your head without writing the vision down on paper… you will forget what it is… and the goal will lose it’s power of influence in your life.

Goals MUST be put in a place where you can view and read them at least once a day (such as on your bedroom or office wall, on the fridge, in your underwear drawer, etc.). The more times you are able to read your goals on a daily basis… the more ingrained it will become in your mind and your spirit.

Here’s something that I learned while going to college (yes… I actually learned something good in college). Goals must be S.M.A.R.T…. meaning that your goals must be:


Specific – Meaning you don’t focus on just setting some general goal, like “I want to lose weight” or “I want to make more money”… that’s too general! Your goals should look more like “I will join a gym, workout 3 days a week, and lose 25 lbs.”… or “I will go back to school, learn a new discipline, and will raise my salary up by $20,000 a year.”

Have a little attitude and a little spunk in setting your goals… you’ll like it!

Basically you identify the Who, What, Where, When, How, and Why of your goal.

Measurable – You have to be able to measure your progress of your journey to reaching your goal. So if you want to lose 25 lbs in 5 weeks… you would measure yourself each week by making sure you’ve lost at least 5 lbs. each week. If you haven’t lost at least that much weight, you know you are off-track some and need to work a bit harder.

Attainable – You can attain (or have) almost any goal that you set eventually with hard work, a positive mindset, and perseverance. Think to yourself… is it important that I reach this goal. If not, then it probably isn’t a good goal for you to have in the first place.

Realistic – While I am a firm believer that we as sons and daughters of the most high God can reach almost anything that we set out to do… let’s take a step back and be real. If you are 3-foot tall midget, you’re probably not going to be able to reach the goal of being an N.B.A. basketball player.

If you were not born in the United States of America… and are not at least 35 years of age… you cannot ever hope to be President of the United States.

Most things in life CAN be reached in life with goals and faith (firmly believing it will happen)… but make sure that you’re realsitic about it. Make sure you’re willing to put in the time, expenses, blood, sweat, tears, and the effort that is needed to undertake in order for you to reach the goal. Make sure you’re willing to pay the price!

Timely – Goals MUST have a time frame set to them, so that they can WORK for you. So your goals may look like, “I want to graduate from dental school in 2 years” or “I want to be able to bench press 300 lbs. in 6 months” or “I want to be able to purchase my first home by January 1, 2010”.

When you set deadlines to your goals… it keeps them from going dead… and makes them that much more real in your life, and helps to push you harder, so that you can reach them.

That said… write down your goals NOW! You don’t have an excuse not to succeed in life. You don’t have an excuse to not be the person you want to be, or have the things you want to have. You don’t have an excuse not to do the things you want to do in life.

THe only one who can change your life, is you… and you can start today.

Tomorrow is going to come whether you want it to, or not… so you might as well make it brighter by setting your goals today!

Until tomorrow, be blessed and walk in God’s rich abundance today!

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Goal Setting – The SEXY Way

Okay, so I wrote this headline to capture your attention. Did I do a good job? Anyways… when we think of goals and writing goals down… let’s be real, it sounds B-O-R-I-N-G.

Sure… goals do NOT have an hourglass shape… or have a 36-24-36 measurement… or look good in a little red dress, but if we could see how good goals can look like in our lives when we implement them… they would look very sexy!

I bet you never thought you would hear a preacher use the word ‘Sexy’, did you???

But if we could see how POWERFUL the effects and results of goal setting can be in just about every aspect of our life, goals would be one of the MOST attractive things we can lay our eyes on.

Let’s look at some wisdom from the Bible:

“Write the vision down, and make it plain on tables [a tablet, notepad], that he that reads it may RUN with it” — Habakkuk 2:2

In yesterday’s blog post, we talked about having a vision in your life for yourself (click here to read that post). In order for us to achieve our vision that we have for our lives… it is essential that we write it down on paper.

A goal simply put is this:

You writing down on paper where you want to be, what you want to have, or what you want to do… at a certain specified time.

You can also look at a goal just like you look at a MapQuest map when you’re traveling. Your goal is the destination where you want to ‘end up at’.

Too many times in life, we let life & circumstances dictate where we should go… instead of us dictating to life & circumstances where we WANT to go. Goals are the engine that superpower us into ACHIEVING just about EVERY desire we have in our life.

So you don’t believe that goals will work for you if you work it? A Harvard study that was done many years ago followed a class of graduate students over a span of 20+ years. Only 3% of those students WROTE down their goals.

At the end of the 20-year study, the 3% of the graduating class that wrote their goals down… had accomplished MORE than the remaining 97% of the class who DID NOT write their goals down!

The 3% with the goals were wealthier, happier, had more satisfaction with life, were healthier, and more vibrant.

All because they set and wrote down some boring ole goals for themselves.

The Bible agrees with this. Even back in 600 B.C. when the prophet Habakkuk wrote penned those words of wisdom through inspiration… it holds SO true today.

If we write our vision down on paper (goals)… when we read it, it allows us to run in life, instead of crawl.

Goals seem to be as sure as the law of gravity, as sure as the sun coming up in the morning, and as sure of it going down in the evening. Goals work for people who use them. Whether it is science or some type of weird, supernatural phenomenom — goals have a tendancy of exciting, invigorating, and pushing you to your fullest potential.

You need goals for your career or business. You need goals for your physical health and well-being. You need goals for your family. You need goals for your spiritual life. Just about every aspect of life you have… YOU NEED GOALS!

I will talk more about goals tomorrow… and get more specific on how to set proper goals which will excite you and drive you to get to places that you never dreamed that you could ever get too! Until then, think and dream about where you want to be at life in the next 5 years. Where do want to be at in life next year? Where do want to be at in life in the next 6 months?

What have you always wanted to do… or to be… or to have in life? Have you wanted to write a book, or perhaps start a new business, or maybe go to the moon (hey — space traveling is definitely NOT my thing, so I won’t hate on you if it’s yours!). What did you always dream about doing in life, ever since you were a kid?

Think about it and until tomorrow, be extremely blessed… and remember God’s abundance in your life starts today, so grab it and run with it now… because tomorrow is too late!

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